
The Gift of Fear
Gavin de Becker
4.7 on Amazon
16 HN comments

Tiny Habits: The Small Changes That Change Everything
BJ Fogg Ph.D
4.7 on Amazon
15 HN comments

Eat to Live: The Amazing Nutrient-Rich Program for Fast and Sustained Weight Loss, Revised Edition
Joel Fuhrman MD
4.5 on Amazon
15 HN comments

A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life's Purpose (Oprah's Book Club, Selection 61)
Eckhart Tolle
4.7 on Amazon
15 HN comments

Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead
Brené Brown and Penguin Audio
4.7 on Amazon
14 HN comments

The Culture Code: The Secrets of Highly Successful Groups
Daniel Coyle
4.7 on Amazon
14 HN comments

The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying: The Spiritual Classic & International Bestseller: 25th Anniversary Edition
Sogyal Rinpoche , Patrick Gaffney , et al.
4.7 on Amazon
14 HN comments

The Feeling Good Handbook
David D. Burns
4.5 on Amazon
13 HN comments

Lost Connections: Uncovering the Real Causes of Depression - and the Unexpected Solutions
Johann Hari and Audible Studios
4.6 on Amazon
13 HN comments

The Miracle of Mindfulness: An Introduction to the Practice of Meditation
Thich Nhat Hanh , Vo-Dihn Mai, et al.
4.7 on Amazon
13 HN comments

The Coaching Habit: Say Less, Ask More & Change the Way You Lead Forever
Michael Bungay Stanier
4.6 on Amazon
13 HN comments

The Way of the Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire (20th Anniversary Edition)
David Deida
4.7 on Amazon
13 HN comments

Food of the Gods: The Search for the Original Tree of Knowledge : A Radical History of Plants, Drugs, and Human Evolution
Terence McKenna, Jeffrey Kafer, et al.
4.8 on Amazon
12 HN comments

The Art of Happiness: A Handbook for Living
Dalai Lama
4.7 on Amazon
12 HN comments

The Secret
Rhonda Byrne
4.5 on Amazon
12 HN comments
olivierntkonSep 15, 2015
The miracle of mindfulness, No mud/No Lotus, How to Love ...
vbstevenonMay 11, 2018
* The miracle of mindfulness - Thich Nhat Hanh
* Letters from a stoic - Seneca
* Amusing ourselves to death (Neil Postman) (combined with 1984 by Orwell and Brave New World by Huxley)
* Zen mind, beginner's mind - Shunryu Suzuki
* Walden - Henry David Thoreau
pawelwentpawelonJune 27, 2012
I've also read "the miracle of mindfulness" which was a pretty good read. You can find a pdf quickly if you know how to use google ;)
I would love to see some more scientific studies on how meditation affects one's brain. I'm not a big fan of all those "metaphysical" writings on meditation. I'd like to treat it more like a consciousness training.
wurponSep 9, 2019
I can provide a good guided breathing meditation on request.
Meditation will help you be calm and focused. It will help you recognize and work through emotions with a minimum of harm to yourself or others.
I'm definitely not advocating self-immolation, but the same training that let monks sit calmly as they burned to death in the 60s (in an attempt to call attention to the horrifying war in Vietnam) will definitely help you deal with your breakup, illness, work troubles, or loss of a loved one.
fractalcatonFeb 3, 2015
[0]: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Th%C3%ADch_Nh%E1%BA%A5t_H%E1%B...
[1]: Linehan M., Cognitive-Behavioral Treatment of Borderline Personality Disorder
gyepionApr 7, 2014
I am glad to see Csikszenmihalyi on the list as well. Flow is a very powerful concept; we all know it, but understanding it and using it effectively is a different matter entirely.
After reading The Miracle of Mindfulness by Thich Nhat Hanh, I realized that all three books are actually talking about the same subject from different perspectives.
To this list, I would add:
anything by Robert Grudin, but especially:
Time and the Art of Living and The Grace of Great Things
How to solve it by G. Polya
Conceptual Blockbusting by James Adams
Nice to see the Mortimer Adler recommendation as well, but I think his How to Read a Book should be a prerequisite for serious reading.
As I've gotten older, I've come to the conclusion that true understanding requires the kind of depth that comes from knowing one's self intimately. It's a lot harder than it sounds, especially for a technologist.
starpilotonOct 12, 2012
1. The Miracle of Mindfulness, Thich Nhat Hanh
2. Mindfulness in Plain English, Bhante Gunaratana. This one is free online, though the paid copy is a bit more edited for clarity.
My primary guide is 1. It's concise and provides just the right amount of breathing exercises to help me focus while I "sit." 2 is more comprehensive but I've found it a bit too scattered, with too many tools to help with breathing that I go in circles attempting different ones. Most people I think employ a couple and ignore the rest. 1 is much better written and just a more cohesive book than 2 IMO, but they're both great books and either one alone works well as a guide to meditating.
Anand_SonJune 5, 2017
2. Mini Habits. ~ Stephen Guise
3. Learned Optimism. ~ Martin Seligman
4. Spark. ~ John Ratey
5. Miracle of Mindfulness. ~ Thich nhat hanh
moleculeonOct 6, 2015
> While washing the dishes one should only be washing the dishes. This means that while washing the dishes one should be completely aware of the fact that one is washing the dishes. At first glance, that might seem a little silly. Why put so much stress on a simple thing? But that’s precisely the point. The fact that I am standing there and washing is a wondrous reality. I’m being completely myself, following my breath, conscious of my presence, and conscious of my thoughts and actions. There’s no way I can be tossed around mindlessly like a bottle slapped here and there on the waves.
SuperChihuahuaonJune 27, 2012
graemeonMay 14, 2014
The Miracle of Mindfulness was a good read. Actually, the first ten pages was enough for me. It got me to try being totally mindful for a morning as I went about my affairs, and that stuck with me. I am solidly in the present most of the time.
Letters from a stoic is what I read for Seneca. He taught me that we will lose everything eventually, but accepting this lets us enjoy what we have without fear. And he taught me to rehearse any scenarios I fear and write them down, to see that they're ultimately not so bad, or the common fate of us all.
graemeonMar 19, 2016
Of course, a big part of the latter two books was also structuring my life so I don't have situations where I need to deal with office politics as part of my livelihood. But I can confirm that the techniques do work for very real stresses I've had that can't be avoided.
isleyaardvarkonApr 23, 2010
The gist of it was his friend was discussing spending time with his kids. He would view something like the concert Patterico mentioned as "his time" and sitting in the car with a crying baby as "the kid's time". He simply decided to start viewing "the kid's time" as "his time", he was choosing to spend quality time with his children.