Hacker News Books

"What Happened To You" by Oprah and Bruce Perry https://www.amazon.com/What-Happened-You-Conversations-Resil...: This helped me to wrap my head around concepts I've been working on for a long time. How what happened to you affects what you're doing now. It also has advice about how to "fix" some of it with small, controllable doses of discomfort.

"What Makes Love Last" By John Gottman https://www.amazon.com/What-Makes-Love-Last-audiobook/dp/B00...: The underlying premise of this book is that love, friendship etc., are based on trust. It relates some of it to game theory in a way that really clicked with me.

"Becoming The Kind Father" by Calvin Sandborn https://www.amazon.com/Becoming-Kind-Father-Sons-Journey/dp/...: This really helped me connect with my internal voice and taught me that it's ok to create a group of people you can communicate your upset feelings with and how to manage that.

There were a bunch of books that I read to understand how important physicality is to all of this. I can't think of one particular one to call out. You need to sleep enough, eat well, get some movement, and get some meditation. There are some other physical things that are helpful. I see a somatic therapist and we do therapy while she works on my body. Of all of the therapy I've ever done, it's the best.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BFqotaIc3Dw this before bedtime has been a game changer.