This was a nice succinct writeup. On the topic, here are some books I'd recommend for ICs making the jump to a manager role (or thinking about it):

1. The Making of a Manager (https://www.amazon.com/Making-Manager-What-Everyone-Looks-eb...)

2. The Manager's Path (https://www.amazon.com/Managers-Path-Leaders-Navigating-Grow...)

3. Crucial Conversations (https://www.amazon.com/Crucial-Conversations-Talking-Stakes-...)

4. The Coaching Habit (https://www.amazon.com/Coaching-Habit-Less-Change-Forever-eb...)

5. The Five Dysfunctions of a Team (https://www.amazon.com/Five-Dysfunctions-Team-Leadership-Len...)

I'm still due to read High Output Management (https://www.amazon.com/High-Output-Management-Andrew-Grove-e...) and Extreme Ownership (https://www.amazon.com/Extreme-Ownership-U-S-Navy-SEALs-eboo...).

Wow very nice summary of the main ideas of the book, I totally agree, this book is worth reading...

I was reading reading "the making of a manager" by Julie Zhuo earlier this month (which b.t.w. I personally think is a very good book), in her book she mentioned the book "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie (at first I was a bit scared by the title, to me it sounded like a mind control bullshit boot, but it's actually very interesting, I can't definitely recommend it, because I'm only on page 50 or so). But I think the book "How to Win Friends and Influence People" is a good source to learn or just get remembered about the things you mention in your question, like "dealing with your own emotions" or "improving the quality of the communication with your coworkers / team".

There was a good book, written my one of the first Facebook front-end devs, and she was also interviewed about this topic on an HBR Ideacast podcast...

https://hbr.org/podcast/2019/08/the-challenges-and-triumphs-...

The Making of a Manager: What to Do When Everyone Looks to You

https://www.amazon.com/dp/0735219567

Read: The Making of a Manager by Julie Zhou (VP of product design at FB)

It clearly explains what a manager is and what he is responsible for and how to be a good manager. It also reads easily as it's a well-written book.

She defines the main job responsibility of a manager as follows: to get better outcomes from a group of people working together.

The best management book I read this year was "The Making of a Manager" by Julie Zhou [1]. The book is concise, clearly written and actionable. It's specifically written for first time managers and the author is a design lead at Facebook.

[1]: https://www.amazon.com/Making-Manager-What-Everyone-Looks/dp...

One of the best things about being a Product Manager is that you don’t need a particular background. But in your case, you have an advantage over people because you speak the engineer’s language.

I would recommend these two books because they really give you the preparation you need to learn about the tactical part of PM and the soft skills required to excel at your job.

The Ultimate Product Management Guide: which you can download for free here https://bit.ly/31YhGUu

The Making of a Manager https://bit.ly/2ZOo4eb

I read both this and "The Making of a Manager", and I've got to say, "The Making of a Manager" has much better advice and is a lot easier to act on than what Manager's Path gives.

I think the primary difference is what point in their careers the book was written. Julie wrote the book early in her career while Camille has been in upper management for some time meaning that she's more distant from the challenges of becoming a first time manager.

And despite Julie's only experience being at Facebook, I still found the advice widely applicable.

This whole damn list can be boiled down to "how to communicate effectively" and isn't very actionable at all by the reader. Which isn't too much of a surprise to me because that's the exact way I felt reading Manager's Path. It's even a bit insulting that it's targeted at engineers, furthering the narrative that engineers are bad communicators.

Much better books in this space are "The Making of a Manager" by Julie Zhuo and "Elegant Puzzle" by Will Larson. Both very insightful and actionable. The latter is a bit dense though.